Baap ka raj attitude ....lacks basic courtesy or responsibility
Recently my dear close old friend narrated a serious problem with accident insurance claim lying in motor accident tribunal of his family member who is in a vegetative state due to accident His story moved me. I went out of the way and called on sunday a CEO of one insurance co. to intervene and help in the matter. The way I requested he too went out of the way and got a response from the concerned insurer. Insurer disclosed to settle the issue at Rs 55 lacs and I wanted to see that he gets more then that. I called him for discussion. I forwarded all correspondence to my friend over night. I think he was thereafter approached by his lawyer and he must have settled at what insurer was offering. But at least he has not even bothered to give me any update forget even thanks which I do not want as atleast I treat him as family. I am at loss of face before the CEO whom I troubled so much but have not been able to update or thank him.
I hv seen people suddenly calling for a tel. no or some info and once we sms or email they don't acknowledge. And then v think they hv received info. But one of the person after months says I did not receive or file did not open etc etc.. Now why can't people timely acknowledge work done, not done, gift received, card received or so on when it is specific to them. They may not respond to mass mail or mass messages. But most people do not care to acknowledge after their work is done.
One person from my samaj / community told me that he was looking for match for his daughter for last 3 years but has been unlucky.I convinced him to use my free matrimonial site for community (www.digambarjains.com) .After about a year I was travelling with his brother for a yatra and where by the way he mentioned that his brother found a match thru my site within a month. The girl is now happily married. Forget about extending a support to site, forget about spreading a good word about site forget about thinking of calling me for marriage he has not cared to even write a word to me.
This happens regularly. We help some for civic issues, medical issues, education issues and so on but the reward is that you find the respect goes to only monied or celebrities, And the samaj does not give any acknowledgement to those who work for samaj but who contribute for lunch for samaj and they honour such donors. Samaj hardly cares for those who build institutions for samaj and welfare of needy but give all praise to those who do rituals of vidhans.
RSVP: We just do not care to be responsible to our friends and relatives who invite us. Poor fellow books for 500 persons and 300 turn up and he books for 500 and 750 turn up. This is just an example.In a marriage or similar events if u ask repetedly that if u r coming and how many of you are coming then only few reply with certainty and clarity. So when u book hôtel rooms you are not sure. And in some marriages host has to sleep 6 instead of 2 per room and in some marriages half of the rooms go unused. Waste of money and resources due to irresponsible egoist guys.
Accepting responsibility: There r many who accept the responsibilities and then just do not do anything. And worst is they never even bother to handover the charge to others. This happens specially in social organisations but even in family functions I have seen that some people accept responsibility but do not do anything and not even care to inform. You may feel they are purposely trying to sabotage your event.
Reaching late with a pride: Most of us do not care to sms/ inform if they are going to be late for some reason. You may cancel any work or appointment for them and they may not come and may come late without and feeling of responsibility to inform. If u try to say anything then they will say to kya hua.
Expecting: The best thing is that those who have never ever done anything for you, in your need of hour, for the family responsibilities/ for the samaj are the ones who demand the most more you or from samaj/ community. They have ample time for who’s who, for personal entertainment, for tours and so on. They know to exercise full rights to claim in family or society or nation. But do not have time to contribute little of their time, resources, contacts or anything. It is well said unkamau aave chillata and kamau aave sir jhukata means one who earns for the family enters house humbly bowing head and one who earns nothing comes shouting, yelling, demanding.
So we live in the world with all kind of people and enjoy living with all variety and that makes world complete. Accept such people and continue your work as you have a khujali/ itching to do good and they have to exert, exploit and so on.
It is the path you have chosen so be calm and continue to be passionate about it without feeling suffocated though it is a suffocating world.